Treat yourself to yourself
By Vanessa Redux
Sex Columnist
Do you think you’re good, maybe damn good, in the sack?
What is it that gives you that indication exactly?
Is it the reaction to the other person shuddering and shifting while you’re doing the deed of deeds?
If you want to know your partner’s parts as expertly as they do, you must first get intimately acquainted with your own. No flimsy handshakes allowed.
Admittedly masturbation is perceived with a bit more of a “boys will be boys” type attitude than the girly counterpart.
Yes, it’s probably true that we are the most sexually obnoxious generation so far.
Many women say these particular finger aerobics are skeezy porn-star antics, but then go home and covetously straddle their showerhead, wrestle the washing machine or even use their electric toothbrush before beddy-bye — and not to fight the scourge of gingivitis.
So, get real ladies, because if you aren’t masturbating, you are doing a number of disservices to yourself and your body. They call it a temple, not a church, for a reason.
Your clitoris may look kind of like a teeny, fleshy, hooded nub, but the clit extends four inches into the wall of the vagina; that bit with the disguise is just the tip of the organ itself.
The penis has so much utility, sure, but not a part of it is designed solely to get him off.
The clit, on the other hand, is only good for that very thing, so if it feels good, do it.
Some women complain that intercourse never leads to climax and that this fact causes them to lose interest in sex altogether, particularly penetration.
The Kinsey Institute, one of the world’s leading authorities on the science of sex, reported that women with a history of masturbating more easily experience orgasm through penetration later in life, and tend to have fewer sexual problems as well.
Tracey Cox, author of Hot Sex: How To Do It, wrote that of those women who do diddle down there, 95 per cent can bring themselves to climax, and the more sexually active you are the more likely you are to masturbate. But sadly, said Cox, if you don’t, it’s likely you’ve never made the face that inspired the first “fuck!” ever uttered.
If you do do the finger fandango, try different methods and positions.
Knowing how to get it on all by your lonesome is a sure-fire way to ensure you can let him know what you like, and when you’re by yourself all the pressure is off.
Well, the pressure is up to you.
There are plenty of resources on the web that will illuminate your downstairs for you if you need a guide, and it is quite likely your bedmate will be more than happy to watch your newly acquired prowess.
Some books suggest that you may like to take a hand mirror to your cooter and really inspect your secret bits, and I always thought that if you’d seen one you’d seen them all.
